This is the known dynamic of the birth parent, selfless and caring. However, it also applies to adoptive parents when their children may want to begin a search to find their roots. They must selflessly provide the love and support their child needs. This is why FUN’s Private Adoption team promotes open adoptions. It is truly the best option for those involved and requires selfless love from all sides.

A quote from an unknown author about the power of a birth mom. Placing children does not mean giving them up, but making sure they are in the best loving environment possible. The children placed are not forgotten by their birth parents, they are an important piece in their lives and hearts.

Placing vs. Giving Up

When placing a child for adoption it is exactly that, placing. This is the term used by professionals because when an adoption plan is created it is does not mean that the birth parents do not care for and love their child. Birth parents did not give up their child, but rather they are placing their child in the hands and hearts of someone who will care for their child in ways they cannot.  The words “giving up” would have been an apt way to describe adoption processes throughout history, where there would no longer be contact and was commonly done without the birth parent’s informed decision. This is a different view of adoption, one that professionals have tirelessly worked to turn into the open and honest process that it is today. Here is a video about “placing” versus “giving up”: